The Importance of Taking Time To Yourself
I have 2 boys as you all know, and let me just say that things always can get a bit...
Of course you can't always get personal time because, well...kids get sick, schedules get hectic, etc. But even some time to yourself a little each week will do wonders.
Now you may be thinking to yourself: "She has to be kidding if she even thinks I can get some time to myself, there's no time for that"
The thing is, there is time. We usually just don't realize it. Either we can get up a bit early (I know it sounds hard, but it is sometimes well worth it), or we can stay up a little later to get our "me" time. There is also nap time, and you can compromise with your partner sometimes as well and switch.
And your "you" time doesn't have to be anything crazy expensive, or at a special place. Just some time to yourself to do something you enjoy. Maybe go to the library by yourself, take a couple hours to read, play some computer games, take a walk, ride your bike, work in the garden, go get your hair done, crochet, watch a TV show, etc. You can take an hour, two hours, or even 30 minutes. Just take some time to breathe for yourself.
There are many ways to give yourself a little break now and again. Most importantly just know that it's okay to do that.
When I had my first son I felt guilty about taking time to myself. For the longest time I didn't even want to, and that's okay too. But as time went on, he grew, schedules started getting even more crazy, our family expanded, and things got even more hectic with all our lives. I wouldn't change any of it for the world of course, I am so thankful for my husband, family, and children. But you can't lose yourself in the process. Just because you are a mother, wife, etc., doesn't mean you are not still you. You are still your own person with your own interests, hobbies, etc.
If you find yourself getting stressed out take some time. Schedule it in for yourself, and you will be thankful you did. It really helps your mood, patience, and just your whole parenting spirit in general.
Motherhood is the most rewarding job in the entire world if you ask me. The love I feel for my children is by far the most wonderfully indescribable feeling in the world. I could go on and on about all the joys, but motherhood can also be hard. I'm not going to sugar-coat it here. It isn't always easy, no matter what people say. Whether you are a working mom or a stay at home mom we all have a hard job even as rewarding as it is. We are literally everything rolled into one. Oftentimes we are thrust into these new lives with little or no training, and nobody is going to give you the lowdown nitty gritty details of motherhood. You'll hear of all the good because they want you to be happy, but the hard stuff is learned as it comes. And we deserve a little time to ourselves every now and again so we don't get overwhelmed. It doesn't mean that you aren't a good mother, it doesn't mean you aren't taking good care of your children, so don't even let any of that make you feel guilty. Everyone deserves to do something for themselves every now and then. Moms are no different.
So take some time out for yourself this week, and enjoy it. Whether it's 1 hour, 30 minutes, or even 20 minutes just take a breather and relax. Ask your husband or partner to play with the kids for an hour or so, they will get some bonding time, and you will get a little break. Wait till your kiddos go to sleep and just relax and get caught up on that book you never get time to read. You'll feel better once you did.
Come back on Thursday to see priddymomma's input on The Importance of You Time, and come back Saturday for Leslie's input.
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How do you usually spend your "me" time?